Wednesday, December 08, 2004

Weapons of Mass Destruction WMD Have Been Found in Kuwait

I'm holding on, but do not know what I am holding on to, for fear of opening my eyes to find that I have nothing in it.

I’ve managed to get dumped 3 times this week. Twice by the same person, only because he had weapons of mass destruction which he skilfully used. The first weapon was 'history' and the second i cannot mention here (respecting his privacy).

The Weapon of Mass Destruction used by second 'person' (restraining myself from using colorful adjectives), was friendship! Yes, i never new that can be used in any malicious way but thank you friend for showing me that it can (be used).

At one point i thought these things happen to me because 'what goes around comes around'. So i spent considerable time and effort on an internal audit of whom i have hurt. It turned out to be one very nice 'person' (again) who fell in love with me but in him i had no real interest for many valid reasons which i couldn't share with him, so i ended up telling him that i was 'spoken for'.

By chance, i bumped into him a short while back, and we had a quick update on our lives since the year that we last spoke. Turns out he had gotten married after a 2 year love story (so thank God he had gotten over me), but his marriage lasted 2 months. I gave him a brief update of my life and asked him if he 'harbours any hard feelings towards me because i have been wondering if i ill-treated him, and i fear that what goes around comes around'. To my surprise, he said 'i've felt the same way, do I have your forgiveness?'

So that being out of the way, I have nothing else to blame my dysfunctional love life on, except fate of course-- and as disillusioned as i should be, i still believe in all 4 letter words!



Comments:
Being dumped three times in one week?? Hold on a minute, does that mean you were dating three diffent people and they all dumped you?? Or you actually had a relationship, got dumped, had another relationship, got dumped again, and had a third relationship and got dumped a third time in the span of 7 days?!!?
you really have to take it easy with the relationship thing! Three in one week must be some sort of record! Some people take weeks or months to form a single relationship! Maybe the problem lies in ur definition of a relationship and being dumped?
 
Judgements Judgements!

If you read carefully, you'd know that they were 3 dumping events in 1 week by 2 people.

Neither one of them am i in a relationship with. Key words are: HISTORY & FRIEND.
 
I did read carefully,

"I’ve managed to get dumped 3 times this week. Twice by the same person, only because he had weapons of mass destruction which he skilfully used. The first weapon was 'history' and the second i cannot mention here (respecting his privacy)."

Did I miss something? If i misunderstood something, then sorry about the earlier comment :)
 
Hello,
My name is Shurouq..I got dumped 4 days ago.

Damn it hurts.. especially when you don't even get a decent breakup line
Sheba, I'm starting to believe in the 'what goes around, comes around'. Unlike you though, I won't do the research to prove it wrong.

Hang in there, girl


Speaking of history and judgement, are all guys assholes? (no offense, monsieurs)
 
Shurouq, nope we're not all assholes
 
Shurouq, LOLOL

Yes we are.. we are all disgusting pigs, with no remorse. hehehehe.. And Q, you’re the only one that is not.. :)

I am just helping you vent out.. you can say anything about all guys, if it makes you feel just little better.. and I hope you do feel better now..

I wonder why I don’t get my self in to this kinda mess ?? I’m free as a bird, and a friend like no other… live and learn my friends.. live and learn.
 
yes they are Shrouq...

Unless their names are David, Ronny and John John
 
I'm really sick & tired of this subject.
 
Shurouk

If it the Mr. Big who you spoke about earlier who dumped you, then 1000 congratulations!

Mr. Bigs shouldn't be allowed status in your life to begin with!

Look at me giving advise!

Actually, you know what? 'Playboys' (not Mr. Bigs) are nicer than nice guys for 1 simple reason, they know what they want and they dont lie about it & they have big white hearts.
 
Q, I believe you.

TheDon, If I really thought he was a disgusting pig.. a jerk.. an asshole, I wouldn't be in turmoil. And you probably don't get yourself in such mess coz you're a smart cookie.

W., I might as well shoot myself in the head then :s
 
32 yrs old and this kind of relationships?
are we in KUWAIT or there is a hidden life avg guys like me cannot see ?!
 
Sheba,
Yes, he's the one.
And your advice is always appreciated dear.

Good night
 
you "can't see" or decide to turn a blind eye?

والفرق مره كبير

انا بزعمي, يبيلهم كورسات ابتداءاً ب "ذوق 101
 
Anonymous,

What are you surprised about? The fact that nice girls like me are dumped? Or that I'm 32 and still available? Or that men are jerks?

Sheba
 
Wasi brought it to my attention that the subject matter of this post may be obvious to the people its about. Fact is i do care not to hurt them, and although i was angry when i wrote this i tried to not indicate who it may be.

Person 2: Having said that, i just want you to know that i have no hard feelings towards you.

Person 1: I have very well moved on, and my feelings of hurt do not come because of your silly & unbelievable excuses but because of the lack of respect that i felt when you really thought i would believe them.
 
sheba with all my respect,
what surprises me is the combination of 3 factors: (1)being 32, (2)still active in the "GAME" and (3)taking it seriously
OK what's next? if 30s girls still "play" and taking it seriously where we are going next? every married woman has BF?
These scenes intimidate every single guy believe in "Marriage as a Social Framework" and make them wonder would I have any chick with no past?
 
Anonymous,

As pointed out to me by a lovely girl friend, how do you know that i'm 32? Its either that you know me personally, or that you've been following my blog very carefully. Either way, i'm disappointed, but i will reply.

1. You consider a woman at 32 to be a senior citizen & she should only Knit & not have a love life. Thats interesting because if i recall correctly women peak sexually between ages 30-34m so i'm in my prime. And if my memory is still okay, the age that it is said that we are going to be when we get to heaven is 31. So i'm 1 year past that. Moreover, i think i'm very attractive and looking better by the day-- just like wine, the older the better. Moreover, other than the 2 men that were the subject of this post, 90% of the time i've been persued by considerable younger & very cute men. So, i will stop here on the age part.

2. As to me still being in the 'game' i'm not interested in games, never was. But if you consider relationships to be a game, then i extend to you and any female around you my deepest sympathies. Moreover, the sanctity and chastity of marriage is not questionable and it is not related to how many failed relationships or how many undecided men we bump into.

3. As to marrying someone with no history. Now please get real. Who do you think all the men are dating, loving, marrying? Girls right of the assembly line? If you want someone with no 'past' i sure hope you have no past either, or else you're a hypocrite. However, you asked a question and i will answer, my suggestion is to marry a 12 year old and you must ask her if she ever played doctor with her cousins, or else you might consider her a slut.

Salam.
 
((Anti Knafa-Wife-Seeker Mode Activated))

**"what surprises me is the combination of 3 factors: (1)being 32, (2)still active in the "GAME" and (3)taking it seriously"

how is being 32 relevent? as far as you, and the rest of the male gender is concerned, our ovulation abilities are still fully functioning ولله الحمد .

**"OK what's next? if 30s girls still "play" and taking it seriously where we are going next? every married woman has BF? "

So what do you propose 30 year olds do? Stay home and knit? You make it seem like the whole dating scene is a brothel. All I can say is كلٍّ يرى النّاس بعين طبعه

**"These scenes intimidate every single guy believe in "Marriage as a Social Framework" and make them wonder would I have any chick with no past?"

لا تعليق


"آه يا قلبي لا تحزن"
 
Sheba
wallah innich barradti chabdi
and I'm with you in every word u said.
even if you're 42 or 52 . bil3ax the older u get the more mature it becomes.
Be selective , and don't give too much.
Your feelings are valuable.
 
why you are disappointed? I am here every now and then, what is wrong with that? simply, if you do not want others to know how old are you do not say it or you may restrict this area to people you know, if that is possible
emotionally-driven parts of your reply are not constructive at all and can be seen only as part of the "defense mechanism". but please feel secure I do not know you, I do not intend nor have the power to judge you but I had one simple question

1. being single and in the "sexual peak" do not make it acceptable to consider any teens kind of relationships. Any mature knows that marriage nothing else is the stable and acceptable form for any relationships. being single does not change anything or would being poor makes stealing acceptable?

2. the relationship between a man and woman within marriage isnt subjected to games or tricks. but let me point out how gamey your relationship is: you need to cover up for sneaking out to see him: does you brother know about him? does you dad? .. can you walk with him in malls go catch a movie without a cover? this is only one part of the game you're in ma'am.

3. plenty of kwti girls with no past are around but the dilemma for single decent men is how to identify them: some religious others not .. as for me i didnt have any "past" and why was that? well, that is too personal to discuss
 
Hmm very interesting.

I don't know where you got the feeling that i am ashamed of my age. As a matter of fact any other reader would see that i'm very proud of it. My concern was, how did YOU know it-- which gives me the creeps even if you're just a random reader.

As to do my parents know. Hehe i'm 32, do you think i should ask for permission to go out. But just to satisfy your curiosity, the answer is YES they do know.

Now for the part that you haven't dated before, please keep that to yourself because i dont want to get creeped out further. Btw, if you so solemnly advocate marriage, why aren't you married yet?
 
looks like you missed the main point: dating and teenager kind of relationships are not suitable for us.

I am quoting here: "bil3ax the older u get the more mature it becomes.": PEOPLE do you think dating is maturation? dear sheba did nothing but dating .. show me where the maturation is?

can you show up with him any where saying he is my BF? the game is all around you ma'am

lastly, who said i am not married?
 
sheba, I do not think that I am exceeding my limits and invading your personal life as you was the first to talk about your "luv life". If you feel the opposite, delete my posts and I would stop making any more comments.
 
"I am quoting here: "bil3ax the older u get the more mature it becomes.": PEOPLE do you think dating is maturation? dear sheba did nothing but dating .. show me where the maturation is?"

Since MEN do the courting ( even though they're doing a crap job at it at the moment,,) I don't see why you should torment and judge Sheba about her personal life, its NATURE you should be judging,, and your average "Joe"

"lastly, who said i am not married?"

Do you think being marriage gives you some sort of lisence to pick on single women? (assuming that you are married, ofcourse)


" I do not think that I am exceeding my limits and invading your personal life as you was the first to talk about your "luv life""

You are merely a prime example and a specimen of the countless creatures out there that turn amazing and beautiful women into much more amazingly beautiful women because your constant criticism and judgments does't not "put them where they should be", they don't make them "yste7oon 3ala wjeehhom", and they will continue to fail in making them subordinate to what you, and thousand loosers with the same thought; think should be superior...

(however in reality, they aren't so wake up and smell her disgustingly cholestrol infused excuse for a knafah,, cuz you know what,, she didn't do it and most probably bought it from seasweet or 7alaweyat elmhawe and had HER bf pick it up since her goody goody hubby was too busy playing around with mistress number 99 while gulping his 15 portion of alchohol)
 
"dating and teenager kind of relationships are not suitable for us."

wasn't that a prejudgment in the first place?

what makes you associate dating with the teenage kind of relationships? Not all the relationships are like the ones you heard about when you were a teenager, people grow up and mature…

what about people that don't believe in finding "the one" the conventional way? That is if he/she was ever found, what are they supposed to do? rot in their homes?

what's not suitable for you maybe suitable to a lot of other people .. if you believe that getting married the conventional way is the only way to go .. then good for you, but don't stuff it down people's throats and start judging them and associate them with teenage behavior, because on the contrary of what you heard, there are real relationships out there that are based on respect and understanding and are even more decent than the ones inside a frame of marriage...
 
W
Being rational kills no one even my little "Joe"

GEO
I am not judging her, I am criticizing a life style that appears to be common around here in kwt. To tell the truth, I never thought it does exist after particular age and never thought that the people involved in the "GAME" take it seriously. I wonder what would be next? shall I expect my daughter, if I have one or going to have one, comes saying hey dad meet my BF he is cute and "multifunctional" .. give me a break people, wait I must ask this: ARE YOU FROM KUWAIT? The logic beyond most posts sound like I don’t know ... Strange?!
I do believe that RIGHT and WRONG are absolutes: if you start wrongly you would end up blaming yourself. And to tell the truth I don’t care if you blamed yourself or blamed anyone else. I do care about ONE thing that is such life styles even if they do exist cannot be dealt with as normal things. They are WRONG who says? Its Religion, Society and Ethics! If you don’t believe in them then, I can say nothing as we lack the language of communication.

" real relationships out there that are based on respect and understanding and are even more decent than the ones inside a frame of marriage" I can't figure out who gave you thsat impression
 
anon.
I think it’s time that you refrain from calling it a “game” or change your definition of the “game”, because what was mentioned above was not a “game” but a serious relationship that didn’t work out so well .. as for the imaginary situation about a daughter it all depends on how you raise your child, it’s your choice .. The key word here is choice .. some people were raised to decide for themselves others had parents to decide for them .. the point is we are free to choose the lifestyles we lead right now not out of spite but out of belief and conviction .. and even though we live in the same country, it doesn’t mean that everyone has to have the same morals, religion or ethics .. we are not a herd lead by a shepherd we are individuals that are entitled to think and act for ourselves, the moral of the story is to learn from one’s mistakes.. but according to you we’re not entitled to do so because you have everything set into stone .. that’s wrong and that’s right .. life does not work out this way…

as for the quote you don’t have to figure out who gave me that impression it’s just an observation :>
 
This is very disturbing.

Dating or not Dating is not Important here. The real Important Values, which unfortunately, seem to be receding into oblivion in Kuwait, is as follows:-

1. Being Faithful (whether you are married or have a bf)
2. Not Lying.
3. Fearing God.
4. SOCIAL TOLERANCE.
5. Acceptance of people from different Points of View.
6. Parental involvement in Children's Lives.

And the list goes on and on and on.

It saddens me to see Anonymous, talking about Dating before marriage being a "Game" and is wrong, and that girls go behind their parents back.
That is All Rubbish and is what affirms the double standards we see in Kuwait.
Our youth is lost. Our Values are Lost. Our Culture is Lost.
And you want to know why ? By Emphasizing Empty Codes Such as "Though Shall not Date", rather than teaching our Children to respect the opposite sex, to treat them as equal intelligent beings, to NOT consider them either as sex objects (gf) or marriagble virgins (wives).

And NO, dating does NOT equate sex Anonymous, that's only for people with bad intentions and dirty minds.

A Very Disturbed PSS.
 
Let me start off by acknowledging my disdain for those who "anonymously" spout haughty words of superior ethics and morals. Even if your words weren't complete and utter bullshit, I'd probably still dislike you. Either way I'm going to jump in this mix and just have some fun with it.

*ahem*

I have the luxury of admitting that, when I was a teenager, I had (quite possibly) the lowest set of morals and ethics imaginable. I went through periods where I craved nothing more than sin for the sake of sinning. Not for its pleasure, but for its "wrong" nature. I never dated. I was married when I was 18. Now I'm almost 26 and getting divorced. So, Anonymous-Coward, am I too old to start dating? You were very clear of the age at which it was OK to still be trying to find someone to share your life with. Actually you weren't even clear if it mattered what sex you were. I suppose it's entirely possible that you think it's OK for men to date and whore around until they physically incapable of do it anymore; who knows. All I know is that, assuming I actually quit smoking, I'll probably live for at *least* a couple more years. If it's your position that I've already used up my portion of "right to life-long companionship" then I suppose I'll either have to blatantly go against your words of wisdom or just accept a life of plutonic friendship for the rest of my days.

Oh and, before I forget, are you considered "average" for Kuwaiti guys? I can't say I've met a lot, but you seem really narrow minded and judgmental. In any event, for the sake of guys like me who don't wish to be associated with your ilk, please try to break down the phrase "average guys" into something a little more granular. Or maybe I'm just above average? o0o0o0o0o0. I like that. You can stay average. I'll take above average. Sweet.

Now where was I? Ah yes...

"if 30s girls still "play" and taking it seriously where we are going next?"Did you even read this out loud to yourself before submitting it? Seriously (no pun intended), think about what you're implying by putting "play" in double-quotes and then think about how someone could both do that and take it seriously. It wouldn't really be play anymore, would it? Regardless, I'm still curious if there is an age at which play is ok. This statement seems to contradict your later statement of finding a girl with no history. If 32 is too old to be playing, there must be an age at which play is either expected or, at the very least, expectable. If there is such an age, and such playing is done, then you would more likely that not getting a woman with a "history" as you like to call it. Aside from your confusing use of words and your seemingly contradictory statements, I'm still left feeling like something needs to be said about the last part in that little mental drool I'm referring to. You say that it leaves you wondering if you would "have any chick with no past." Since you seem to be caught up on this age thing, and speaking as if you're single, I'll assume that you're both single and around the age of 32 or at least close enough so that the dating habits of a female of that age affect you directly. Anyway. Taking these two pieces of information, I've just got to ask, what the hell's wrong with you? If you're around 32 and you don't have a a significant other and don't have a history of your own (again, I'm assuming due to your obvious opinion of histories), I think you've got more to be concerned about than the history any potential (and likely fictional) women might have. You make a allusion to it later, but not to my satisfaction. Nevar!

"being single and in the "sexual peak" do not make it acceptable to consider any teens kind of relationships. Any mature knows that marriage nothing else is the stable and acceptable form for any relationships. being single does not change anything or would being poor makes stealing acceptable?"OK. That entire string is waaaay too incoherent for me to even think about addressing. Did *you* even know what you meant when you started typing that part? C'mon. At least make it possible for me to argue it.

"the relationship between a man and woman within marriage isnt subjected to games or tricks."OK, yeah. You've never been married, I guess. Or known any married people. Or watched TV.

"I do believe that RIGHT and WRONG are absolutes"Take a look at this tread, dude. Looks like RIGHT and WRONG are pretty subjective. And given that we've already established that I don't think much of you, you'll understand if I don't subscribe to your ideas of RIGHT and WRONG.

I like pizza with jalapenos, pineapple and pepperoni.
 
Sheba, GEOrhythm & PSS - I'm impressed. I'm sorry you have to put up with this crap in your own blog Sheba.

Anonymous is making my head hurt and though I try to avoid these kind of people, I can't help but ask..what IS a "multifunctinal" BF?
 
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I think a mutlifunctional guy makes a girl multiorgasmic.
 
WoW!

Now that was fun!

I really feel great appreciation and respect to all my fellow bloggers who came to my rescue from neanderthal man. I really couldn't reply in a better manner. Thank you for your sypathies & empathy and heart felt enthusiasm to cream! You really have given me my 'second wind' as i was thinking before i left to Marina C. that it may still not be time for me to emerge honestly with my life.

Surprisingly, it hurt to see that someone can point accusative fingers at my misery.
 
GEO. BinGO!
it’s a matter of choices but choices that are acceptable socially, religiously and ethically. Back to my adorable daughter, i cant see why you are talking about parents who decide for their children and others who allow their children to decide: lets assume that that i make her decide for herself, does that mean I would give her my approval when is going to dancing party with guys?! GET REAL PEOPLE!.

PSS.
FEARING GOD & BEING FAITHFUL TO YOUR BF; sounds great! .. can he be your ma7rim if you're in 3omrah? (hathy ily naqe9 yinqaaal!)

and HELL NO; girls shouldnt hide behind their parents' back! they're entitled to be fully independent and free to choose BUT would you encourage them to date (something not ethical to do); and before answering the Q, would you encourage GUYS to hunt for girls (I think you would say NO!) ENJOYING their independence? my point is: independence does make whats wrong right. again what double standards you're talking about? I already said that, but no harm to repeat, "WRONG AND RIGHT are absolutes"; they do not change with age, sex, location, situation, etc.

both of you GEO and PSS assumed/hinted that i dont appreciate women, well dears I DO; i see them as partners nothing LESS and maybe MUCH more.


this went too far and cant see myself posting any new comment
 
couldnt stop myself THIS TIME, but i am "neanderthal man" coz said dating wrong, ballah ely egool PRAY people eshbe9eer! akeeed ily begol et7ajibaw will go to hell with saddam and the bad guys, HOW pathetic
but wait, by basic psychology we know it its "defense mechanims"....
 
Ahh not only are we lieing sluts, but we also are 'kuffar' now.

Sub7an Allah.

Btw, i think you'de make a good politician, because you play a good 'holier than thou' role.
 
If you are an abiding muslim you follow ALL the rules that were put out for you in the holy book. If you take some of the rules and manipulate them to your benifets then that makes you a hypocrite. YOU dont have sexual relationships if you are not married. That doesnt mean if you see the opposite sex you have to run and hide. You may ask how do people meet then ? If you keep it non-sexual and pure intentions in finding out what your to be husband/wife will be like then it is social accepted. It is being practised in Bahrain for many years and everything is okay. If you were a Christian even it would not be acceptable to date and have sex. It would be okay to have a relationship. If are an atheist or you dont fear god, then you can do whatever the hell you want to do. Since you are a Kuwaiti 99.9% you are Muslim.
 
Sir, You seem to be obsessed with sex.

If so, please take your sex talk somewhere else-- its simply perverted & disgusting.
 
Oh & your next comment will be deleted.

I think you've shown enough disrespect to earn that!
 
"If are an atheist or you dont fear god, then you can do whatever the hell you want to do."

That's just fscking awesome. Awe. Some.

/me gets to do whatever the hell he wants now.
 
Are we sure it's the same Anonymous guy/girl in each comment? What a bunch of losers!
 
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