Monday, April 11, 2005
Boys & Mothers & Our Future
Little boys love their mothers. Perhaps they have a link that is not understandable and unattainable by his sisters. He looks up to her, and he looks for someone who resembles her. Of course, because of plenty of hormones, he gets involved with girl(s) that may or may not resemble his mother, but she (his first) becomes his surrogate mother. Every experience he has after that is based on that. And every girl/woman after the first has to deal with that ghost of a woman.
So whats the solution? To be the first woman in his life.
So whats the solution? To be the first woman in his life.
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Dear Sheba,
Your posts never cease to amaze me. Reading through some of your prior posts.I noticed that you look for this in a guy:
"Intelligent, well-read, open-minded but respects his culture, sensitive, confident, generous, can cook, has a good sperm count, no emotional or commitment issues, & is a gentleman (with cute lips) & we can talk forever."
I must say that is hard to achieve for a first relationship. I think dudes mature with age like good wine. So I wouldn't get all worked up about a dude's prior relationship. Unless of course they are still seeing each other.
I don't think we do alot of comparing to be honest. We kinda like what we see in a girl and go with it. Everybody is different...and its these differences that makes individuals so interesting.
Yours Truly,
Misguided
P.S You are kinda pushing the envelope with the cooking. Fried eggs should do.
Your posts never cease to amaze me. Reading through some of your prior posts.I noticed that you look for this in a guy:
"Intelligent, well-read, open-minded but respects his culture, sensitive, confident, generous, can cook, has a good sperm count, no emotional or commitment issues, & is a gentleman (with cute lips) & we can talk forever."
I must say that is hard to achieve for a first relationship. I think dudes mature with age like good wine. So I wouldn't get all worked up about a dude's prior relationship. Unless of course they are still seeing each other.
I don't think we do alot of comparing to be honest. We kinda like what we see in a girl and go with it. Everybody is different...and its these differences that makes individuals so interesting.
Yours Truly,
Misguided
P.S You are kinda pushing the envelope with the cooking. Fried eggs should do.
Dear Misguided,
1. The post is about older women dating younger men, in a very discreet manner. If I had to choose between an older man (i.e. older than me by more than 7 yrs, and a younger guy (and he cannot be younger by more than 6 yrs), i would definitely go for the latter. Reasons will come in next post.
2. The guy you described is quiet delicious, any idea where i can find him
1. The post is about older women dating younger men, in a very discreet manner. If I had to choose between an older man (i.e. older than me by more than 7 yrs, and a younger guy (and he cannot be younger by more than 6 yrs), i would definitely go for the latter. Reasons will come in next post.
2. The guy you described is quiet delicious, any idea where i can find him
Ehhh That Ghost !
chan zain ako delete button
Erase her from the universe !
comparing lovers is the worst thing ever
TT
chan zain ako delete button
Erase her from the universe !
comparing lovers is the worst thing ever
TT
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: 9:43 AM
: 9:43 AM
I wouldn't worry about those ghosts in his brain. They will be there whether he admits it or not.
But I was intrigued to find out how this is related to older women dating spicy younger, men? ;)
But I was intrigued to find out how this is related to older women dating spicy younger, men? ;)
msbaker, wasma, ma fahamt shay!
Anonymous TT, I like your comments. Why dont u register?
Jewaira,
Younger guy = maku ghost :)
geo!! What kinda plan is that?? no wonder you have insomnia ;)
Purg, then you're resilient. Btw, its subconscious.
Anonymous TT, I like your comments. Why dont u register?
Jewaira,
Younger guy = maku ghost :)
geo!! What kinda plan is that?? no wonder you have insomnia ;)
Purg, then you're resilient. Btw, its subconscious.
no seriously, no joking, for some reason all the women I know, knew, will know (optimistic), have not been anything like my mother. I do not even look for characteristics related to my mother, but many times to my father. I think I have a stronger bond to him, which is more evident as I grow older.
One example, my mother is short, or average in Kuwaiti standards, now I myself am attracted to woman about my height or a bit above or under, while my brother always has known women about size of my mother. He is closer to her too.
Another example, I like women who think out of the box, so nothing typical, she must have something different or special, esp. since I am not typical either, while my mother can be classified as a typical Kuwaiti women, conservative and 60's generation, so many of you will understand what I mean by that.
I will not of course reveal what I look for in women, or what I do not look for, but what I can say is that I never look for a mother figure.
One example, my mother is short, or average in Kuwaiti standards, now I myself am attracted to woman about my height or a bit above or under, while my brother always has known women about size of my mother. He is closer to her too.
Another example, I like women who think out of the box, so nothing typical, she must have something different or special, esp. since I am not typical either, while my mother can be classified as a typical Kuwaiti women, conservative and 60's generation, so many of you will understand what I mean by that.
I will not of course reveal what I look for in women, or what I do not look for, but what I can say is that I never look for a mother figure.
purg!
Read post again. The theory of the post is that you first look for your mother type, until your first lover then you look for the qualities of this first (refered to as 'surrogate' mother) in other women. Sometimes you look for the girls which DO NOT resemble her, but she has become your benchmark.
Of course this depends on how strongly she affected you.
Read post again. The theory of the post is that you first look for your mother type, until your first lover then you look for the qualities of this first (refered to as 'surrogate' mother) in other women. Sometimes you look for the girls which DO NOT resemble her, but she has become your benchmark.
Of course this depends on how strongly she affected you.
Msbaker, much better. Now i understand what you mean.
1. You are right, but i find contradiction between paragraph 2 & 6. Seems that you are more hopeful than decided.
However, please refer to my answer to purg, its NOT the mother that men look for, its the surrogate mother (their 1st lover who truely affected them).
Moreover, nothing wrong with being bench marked with a guy's mother, just means he has high expectations, because he looked up to his mother (most of the time).
1. You are right, but i find contradiction between paragraph 2 & 6. Seems that you are more hopeful than decided.
However, please refer to my answer to purg, its NOT the mother that men look for, its the surrogate mother (their 1st lover who truely affected them).
Moreover, nothing wrong with being bench marked with a guy's mother, just means he has high expectations, because he looked up to his mother (most of the time).
tawinas shwarach, ba3ad estekanat chai!
msbaker, i received an e-mail from you a while back but i deleted it bil ghala6 cuz i was checking via mobile & i'm not exactly a techno freak. Can you please resend it, cuz i didn't even get a chance to read it.
Merci :)
msbaker, i received an e-mail from you a while back but i deleted it bil ghala6 cuz i was checking via mobile & i'm not exactly a techno freak. Can you please resend it, cuz i didn't even get a chance to read it.
Merci :)
Yeah confuse us and run away, typical Ma baker style! last week on my blog now here! you have been warned, you will be chased for the sambosa :P
Dear Sheba,
"Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all."
Life, after all, is
really just a series of challenges...
Yours Truly,
Misguided
"Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all."
Life, after all, is
really just a series of challenges...
Yours Truly,
Misguided
Msbaker, of course u can confuse the living day lights out of me & whoever you wish to (Purg awalhum) ;)
misguided, this is supposed to be a fun post!
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